Book: Proverbs 29
“Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back.”
I was recently in a discussion with a person who had received an e-mail in which things were either incorrectly quoted, or were hurtful. In fact it seemed like the author of the e-mail was trying to guilt this person into doing something. They were being talked down to and blamed for something they didn’t have control over. How does one respond to such an e-mail? The first reaction might be to quickly send an e-mail back correcting all the misinformation, pointing out the inappropriateness of certain statements and let them know how angry you are. May I suggest that if that was to happen, it may just be adding fuel to the fire or even pouring gas on the fire. (It is almost a for sure thing that if you pour gas on a fire you will get burnt as well!).
I advised this person to not respond with anger or vengeance but rather respond in a positive but firm manner. Keep the e-mail short and to the point, not providing any further opportunity for the person to respond with anger (a fire without fuel burns itself out!). It was tough because he wanted to correct everything that was wrong, inappropriate and hurtful but he followed my recommendation. He realized the truth that it is wiser to “hold it back” than vent his anger.
As a Kingdom builder there are times when the injustice and unfairness towards us must be brought before the King and left for Him to deal with. Romans 12:9 says, “Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD.” God knows the best way of dealing with these issues and will look after it for you. Your job is to be focused on doing what He has called you to do.
As you come into difficult situations and you feel your emotional temperature rise, step back and choose to not respond out of anger. Take it to the Lord first and ask Him to show you how He wants you to respond. Our response, no matter how firm must be done in love!