Book: Proverbs 5
“She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.”
Marriage was God’s idea and plan. He gave Adam & Eve to each other. It says in Genesis 2:24, “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” God’s plan for marriage is that the two individuals will be so captivated by each other and that they will not look outside that union for fulfillment. It is a permanent relationship where together they grow closer and learn to enjoy each other even more.
When people first meet and start to date they spend significant time and energy on the relationship. They want to please each other and so find ways to do that. They only have eyes for each other. Consequently their relationship deepens.
Sometimes married couples forget to keep working on their relationship as they did when they were dating and end up down a path they wish they had never gone. To continue to be captivated and enjoy the relationship as God desires, both people in the relationship must keep feeding it. They are both responsible for it. One can not look at the other and say it is the other person’s responsibility (They would have never said that when they were dating).
Is it worth being captivated by your spouse for years and years? Is it worth putting in the energy to be captivated by your spouse? Is it worth following God’s plan for marriage? Absolutely! As I have talked with people who have been married for 50, 60 or more years, they all have the same answer. When a couple neglect their marriage and stop doing the things that brought them together in the first place they will stop being captivated by their love.
If you are married, think back to the things you did for your spouse when you first became interested in them. Are you still doing those things. What are the things that you do that help captivate your spouse? Take time today to do the things that will strengthen your marriage. If you are single and expecting to be married some day, plan to captivate your spouse.