Book: Proverbs 29
“To discipline a child produces wisdom, but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child… Discipline your children, and they will give you peace of mind and will make your heart glad.”
Notice the connection between discipline, wisdom and peace. The purpose of discipline is not to hurt the child in any way but rather that it would produce wisdom in them. That wisdom produces peace and joy for the parents as they know their child will make wise choices.
The opposite is true as well. A child that is not disciplined but rather allowed to follow their own inclinations without direction or restraints will not be happy and may produce many heartaches for the parents. Peace and joy will not be enjoyed in the family.
You have seen the drama played out in the grocery store where a parent who is struggling to do the family shopping has a child who decides to act up. They scream and holler demanding the candy they have seen. If the parent gives in then guaranteed next time the child wants something they will do the same thing. But if the child is taught that such behavior is not acceptable then next time in the store there will be peace for the child and parent (as well as the other customers and staff).
The discipline a parent gives a child provides the wisdom for their teenage years when they are starting to become more independent. A teenager who has not been disciplined will continue down the unrestrained path of making choices that may very well hurt or kill them. This brings much grief to the parents, especially when others, such as the law, has to step in and provide the hard discipline.
Disciplining a child that results in wisdom is giving them a solid rock to build their life successfully on. Think back to Proverbs 1:7 where it says, “Fear of the Lord is the foundation of true knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.” A child who has been brought up (disciplined) to fear the Lord and love Him will have the knowledge and wisdom to live and build their lives out to the fullest extent that God desires them to have. Even when the tough times come, they will stay disciplined knowing that God has them solidly in His hands.
You may want to read Luke 6:46-49 which talks about building a house with a solid foundation on a rock, compared to building without a foundation. Consider how this applies to disciplining children.
Take time today to pray for each of your children or the children that you know, that they might become wise.