Book: Proverbs 31
“Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise”
This chapter of proverbs is often viewed as a representation of the ideal wife; sort of a job description for her, but this is not the purpose of these verses. In fact the first verse explains that this was for King Solomon, himself, instructions his mother had given him. The final verse in this chapter (and book) is the focus for us today.
Much of the activity that is mentioned in verses 10 -27 could be seen as day to day family tasks. Often we can forget to appreciate all that our spouse does for the family. Although we might expect that our spouse will do certain daily tasks that does not excuse us from showing our appreciation for all that has been done. Our praise should be given regularly with a grateful heart. Think about it, you could be doing your work plus your spouses!
How do you “reward” your spouse? Garry Smalley wrote a book called Language of Love in which he identified 5 different love languages. They are: 1) Acts of service, 2) Quality time, 3) Gifts, 4) Physical touch, 5) Words of affirmation. It is important to discover and know your spouse’s love language so that you can love them in the way they receive it the best.
Secondly, don’t forget to publicly mention your appreciation for your spouse. Too often I hear spouses make a negative comment about their partner when they should be building them up with praise. If you have been reading KDW’s over the last months you will notice that I have commented on my wife, Debbie. I have mentioned how much I appreciate her and how she helps me.
If you are married, let me encourage you to go out of your way in the next 24hours to show your appreciation for all that your spouse does for you and your family. Don’t worry about the things they don’t do, focus on praising them!
Ephesians 5:33 “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”