Book: Proverbs 19
“Fathers can give their sons an inheritance of houses and wealth, but only the Lord can give an understanding wife.”
This proverb reminds me of the wonderful story of Abraham sending his servant off to find a wife for his son Isaac (Genesis 24). Abraham did not have any problems being able to leave a financial inheritance to his son but finding a wife for him was a challenge. Abraham took his most trusted servant aside and commissioned him to return to Abraham’s homeland and find a good and understanding wife for Isaac.
Imagine being given that responsibility today to find a spouse for your boss’s son. You are told to travel to their homeland and bring back the ‘right one’. What pressure you would feel. How would you ever decide which one would be right and then how would you persuade her and her family? Remember, that just like the servant, you would not be allowed to take the boss’s son with you.
The servant used the greatest wisdom he had and that was to pray. He asked the Lord to make it very clear who the woman would be. He wasn’t interested in choosing from ten different women, he wanted just one, the one that the Lord had selected. His prayer was answered very clearly. He found a woman that was an ‘understanding wife.’ She had to be very understanding to travel to a foreign land to marry a man she had never met or talked to. God chose her and gave her the ability to say yes to Abraham’s servant.
As parents, we also can train up our children to be wise financially and provide an inheritance but when it comes to choosing a spouse, the only thing we can do is pray. I suspect that Abraham was also praying as his servant left on his assignment. It says that Abraham was “very old” and so would not be able to travel that distance himself. He had to trust God and his faithful servant to provide who He wanted, for his son.
If you are a parent (or grandparent, uncle, aunt …) pray for the children and their future spouses now. Ask God that He would provide a godly and understanding spouse for each one of them.