Book: Proverbs 27
“Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.”
Truth from a friend may hurt but is done in the best interest of their relationship and the person. We all hate having bad breath especially out in public but we don’t always realize it. Although I hate it when my wife quietly suggests that if I have a Tic Tac or other kind of mint I should put one in my mouth. She doesn’t say it to hurt me but rather to help and protect me. I appreciate her looking out for me in this way. Yes, I would much prefer her telling me about my bad breath than an enemy coming up to me and saying I have the best breath in town.
Sometimes it is hard to tell a good friend something that they need to hear but may be hurtful. The great news is that we do not have to do it on our own strength. We can go to God and ask Him to speak through us with kindness to our friend and that they would graciously receive the words.
I remember a mentor of mine speaking to me after I had spoken to a group of teens about some negative behavior they had done. He took me aside and challenged me that I needed to speak with more grace when correcting young people. That hurt to hear it from one I looked up to but he had said it for my personal growth (and the benefit of future youth I might have to speak to). This took place over 30 years ago and I still remember that conversation. I appreciate that small rebuke.
Allow your sincere friends to speak into your life even if it hurts a bit. This is much better than an enemy flattering you with lies.